One of the most important, yet often misunderstood, steps in the surrogacy journey is matching surrogates to intended parents (IPs). Getting this part right sets the foundation for trust, emotional safety, medical compatibility, and a smoother journey for everyone. At Global Star Surrogacy, we take matching seriously- because we know that when surrogates and IPs are well matched, the process is more harmonious and rewarding.
In this blog, we’ll explain how the surrogate matching process works, what criteria are considered, how we help at Global Star Surrogacy, and answer common questions about how to ensure compatibility.
Why Matching Surrogates to IPs Matters
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Emotional well-being: Surrogacy isn’t just medical—it’s deeply personal. Surrogates and IPs will need to communicate, often over many months. A mismatch in expectations or personalities can cause stress.
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Legal & medical fit: Different countries (or states) have different surrogacy laws. Medical histories, insurance, previous pregnancy outcomes, and health conditions must align properly.
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Smooth communication & relationship: Frequency, mode, and style of communication matter—some surrogates want high involvement from IPs (in clinic visits, scans, sharing photos), others prefer more privacy. Matching on communication preferences avoids misunderstandings.
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Shared values & preferences: Issues such as views on termination, number of embryos to transfer, travel for appointments, or the desired level of relationship post-birth are deeply personal. Having alignment is important.
Key Criteria in the Matching Process
Here are the main factors that both surrogates and intended parents usually consider. These help ensure the match is good in both logistic and emotional dimensions.
| Criteria | What is Usually Examined |
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| Medical and health & obstetric history | Surrogate’s previous pregnancies, general health, risk factors; IP’s requirements (e.g. whether surrogate must have had uncomplicated births) |
| Legal fit | The laws in the surrogate’s home country vs the IP’s country; parentage provisions; contract enforceability; jurisdiction issues |
| Geographical / Location | How far surrogate is willing to travel (for embryo transfer, medical check-ups), whether IPs are international or local, cross-border travel logistics |
| Personality and lifestyle match | Communication preferences (how often, via phone/video/in-person), values, religious or cultural beliefs, lifestyle (smoking, drinking, fitness), support system of surrogates |
| Views on sensitive topics | Termination, selective reduction, abortion (where medically necessary), embryo transfer preferences, risk acceptance, etc. |
| Timeline expectations | How soon IPs want pregnancy, surrogates’ availability, flexibility in schedules, medical readiness, matching queue times |
How Global Star Surrogacy Helps with Matching
At Global Star Surrogacy, we combine professional structure, legal clarity, and compassionate support to facilitate the matching process. Here’s how:
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Comprehensive Pre-Screening
All surrogates undergo medical, psychological, and background screening well before being matched. This ensures that only those truly ready (physically, mentally, legally) move forward. -
Profile Building for Both Sides
We guide both intended parents and surrogates in creating profiles that go beyond medical metrics—sharing their stories, hopes, expectations, communication styles, values. These profiles help both sides see whether they might “click.” -
Legal Assessment Early
Because we operate in multiple surrogacy-friendly countries (for example, Georgia, Mexico, Kazakhstan, Cyprus, Armenia, Colombia), each with its own laws, our legal team ensures compatibility up front. We help with contracts, parentage rights, ensuring that the surrogate’s and IP’s legal jurisdictions are aligned. -
Mutual Review & Communication
Once profiles are shared, both parties review them and can ask questions. We arrange an initial meeting (video call or in person, depending on location) so that IPs and surrogate can talk and see whether they feel comfortable with each other. -
Ongoing Support & Adjustments
Even after matching, we maintain support: clarifying expectations, facilitating honest conversations about fears or uncertainties, helping with logistics (travel, clinics, medical appointments). If issues arise, we work toward mediation and solutions. -
Respecting Preferences & Values
We respect what each party wants—not forcing more communication than someone is comfortable with, or imposing terms. Preferences about cultural matters, religious beliefs, involvement in prenatal visits, etc., all matter to us when matching.
Example Matching Scenario
Let’s say an intended parent from the U.S. wants a surrogate in Colombia because of favorable laws and good IVF clinics. They prefer a surrogate with at least one prior healthy pregnancy, non-smoker, who wants regular video updates, but not many in-person visits. They prefer a more private relationship.
On the other side, a Colombian surrogate may prefer minimal travel, but is open to video updates, has had previous pregnancies, living in a supportive environment, wishes for clarity around legal parentage.
Global Star Surrogacy’s matching team reviews both profiles, ensures legal compatibility in Colombia (parentage agreements), checks medical compatibility, and sets up a video meeting. If both sides are comfortable, the match is made.
FAQs: Matching Surrogates to Intended Parents
Q1: How long does matching take?
It depends on preferences: if either side has many strict criteria, matching may take longer. Usually, it can take from a few weeks to a few months.
Q2: Can I change preferences later?
Yes — but it’s better to be as clear as possible early on. If circumstances change (e.g., medical findings, availability), we help adjust.
Q3: What if I don’t feel comfortable after meeting?
No problem. Mutual comfort is essential. If after meeting you feel it’s not the right match, we continue the process until both sides are truly at ease.
Q4: Do surrogates meet the intended parents’ children or family?
Only if both sides want that and it’s part of their preferences. We respect boundaries and consent for all interactions.
Q5: What if the intended parents are international and legal systems differ?
We have legal experts familiar with jurisdictions of our main countries (Georgia, Mexico, Kazakhstan, Cyprus, Armenia, Colombia) and assist with drafting contracts that protect both parties and ensure parental rights are recognized.
Conclusion
Finding the right match between a surrogate and intended parents is not just a step—it’s the cornerstone of a successful surrogacy journey. At Global Star Surrogacy, our commitment is to matching surrogates to IPs in ways that blend compassion, legal clarity, medical safety, and emotional compatibility. If you are considering this path, we’re here to guide you, support you, and help you find that perfect fit.
